Pain realization

The pain and suffering I've suffered my entire life has made me strong.  While my parents cope with my sister's death via alcohol and spending money I've started to come to peace with it.  They haven't suffered like I have, they aren't as strong as me.  However, because I'm their child they won't except any help or advice from me.  They still have that stupid parental mindset that's getting them no where.  All it's doing is alienating me.  Making me feel unwanted and unwelcome.  Combined with the fact that they lie to me and don't care about my opinion, desires, or needs I think my decision to not speak to them is perfectly reasonable.